Is it difficult for Vietnamese people to express their feelings
Who do you think talk more? Children or grown-ups?
What’s the difference between males and females in terms of expressing their feelings?
HỌC NGAY TỪ VỰNG LIÊN QUAN ĐẾN CHỦ ĐỀ EXPRESS FEELINGS:
deeply rooted in our culture: xuất phát sâu xa từ gốc rễ
discourages us from expressing complex emotions: không khuyến khích chúng tôi thể hiện những cảm xúc phức tạp
against traditional beliefs: ngược lại với những quan điểm truyền thống
keep our emotions bottled up inside: giữ cảm xúc tích tụ bên trong
opening up: thoải mái giãi bày
be strong in body and mind: phải khoẻ mạnh và mạnh mẽ
Men are supposed to : đàn ông thường bị người khác coi là …
bear stress silently : chịu đựng stress một cách âm thầm
adapt to the stereotype : quen với những suy nghĩ cũ đó
long-winded : nói nhiều dài dòng lê thê
impress their conversational counterpart: muốn thể hiện với người đang nói chuyện với mình
they don’t actually feel that way underneath: họ không thực sự thấy như vậy trong bản thân mình
On the opposite side are : ở hướng đối lập là
bringing up topics for conversation : đưa ra vấn đề để thảo luận
suppress/ hold back their feelings : kìm nén cảm xúc
put their feelings into words : thể hiện cảm xúc thành lời
They have been socialized to be a “man” : họ bị xã hội gắn cho cái mác là “người đàn ông”
are not vulnerable: không dễ bị tổn thương
there are rich feelings in there : có nhiều cảm xúc trong họ
not even privately to themselves : thậm chí cả với bản thân họ
emotional : dễ xúc động
SAMPLES FOR EXPRESS FEELINGS:
Is it difficult for Vietnamese people to express their feelings?
Yes, it is. I think this is deeply rooted in our culture which discourages us from expressing complex emotions. Since we were young, we have been taught that we should listen to parents and older people, and how we are supposed to feel or behave in certain situations, and any feelings or attitudes that are against traditional beliefs are often discouraged and criticized by our parents. So we tend to keep our emotions bottled up inside instead of opening up. For example, men in Vietnam are expected to be strong in body and mind. Men are supposed to bear stress silently and not share or show any weakness. They are, therefore, encouraged to suppress their feelings from a very early age and eventually they learn to adapt to the stereotype and they rarely share their feelings even with their family or their spouse.
2. Who do you think talk more? Children or grown-ups?
I think it really depends on each individual, no matter it is a child or a grown-up. It depends on different characters. Some children have the tendency to talk non-stop about their favorite topic or their imaginary world the entire day and they love talking and getting attention from their parents or other people when in public, but there are some children who talk less and are quiet most of the time while busy playing with their toys or learning something they are interested in. Similarly, there are many grown-ups who are long-winded because they’re trying to impress their conversational counterpart with how smart they are, often because they don’t actually feel that way underneath, like they can talk for hours on how much things cost; how many stores they went to looking to find a particular item, whatever it is. On the opposite side are the people who rarely talk. They enjoy being alone and quiet moments. They do not ask questions of others nor do they take responsibility for bringing up topics for conversation.
3. What’s the difference between males and females in terms of expressing their feelings?
I think for men, they have the tendency to suppress/ hold back their feelings more often than women. I think men of course have their deep feelings. However, they don’t know how to put their feelings into words. They have been socialized to be a “man,” which means that they are independent and strong, that they don’t need anyone else, and are not vulnerable. That is why, even though there are rich feelings in there, they can’t really talk about them, not even privately to themselves. On the other hand, women are more likely to open up their feelings and emotions, as we often assume women are more adept atmanaging emotional communication. For example, when watching emotional movies, women can cry, burst into tears or feel sad much easier than men, and men often don’t know how women can be that emotional.